Monday, June 13, 2011

Please remember that, no matter what I say or do, I love you

Went to Clinton this morning, and found this cards, of Blue Mountain ranges..the words, just so beautifully written..I heard all those stories about marriage life..from friends, families, relatives...Whatever it is, I pray for every couples I've known, my parents, my siblings, my relatives, my friends..everybody..for any turbulence in the journey, remember..no matter what happen, your love towards each other is unbeatable..your love..is forever...

Words by Donna Fargo..

'I know we have our unhappy moments..when things aren't going great or we hurt each other's feelings or we say things in the heat of an argument or we do things we wish we hadn't. But..

After the storm is over, after we try to see each other's side, after we calm down and put things in proper perspective, after we apologize and ask each other's forgiveness..we realize that we're just not perfect so all our rough edges are not smoothed out yet and we don't show our love perfectly..and then we forgive each other and go on...

As much as I try to change my ways, become more mature in my thinking, learn patience, slow down enough to listen and be objective and not take things so personally, I mess up sometimes and say or do something that almost upsets the foundation of our love. I just want you to know that I am always so sorry for that..

I also hope that you will always remember that those hasty words and careless acts are not indicative of my true feelings. They are just fleeting, momentary displeasures. They are unprocessed emotions, my immaturity speaking, my unguarded reactions. They are not the whole picture, but rather just a a little blot on the corner of the canvas of our relationship. The truth is..I love you all the time, even when things aren't perfect. I say things that hurt sometimes because I'm hurt. 

I sometimes do things without thinking of your feelings, and at times I just do things without thinking of the consequences of my own actions. Please understand that I never mean to hurt you. I think sometimes part of the problem is that men and women are different; we react differently to situations and see things at times only from our own perspective. Please forgive me when I'm not sensitive to your needs and feelings.
Through it all, I hope that you can trust in the fact that I love you, no matter what I say or how I act. I will continue to work on trying to show my love to you in a more loving way, so that there is no doubt in your heart and mind that I love you. I don't want you to think that I'm copping out and excusing my behaviour when my actions seem insensitive and unloving. I'm not perfect, and I just want you to know that I love you and will always love you...'

Thursday, March 10, 2011

A reason for everything

Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.

You never know who these people may be - a roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a complete stranger - but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect yourlife in some profound way.

Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength,willpower, or heart.

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are sometimes the most important ones.

If someone loves you, give love back to them in whatever way you can, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen to what they have to say.

Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.
 
You can make anything you wish of your life. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

Learn a lesson in life each day that you live! Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

10 ways you know he's the one

Article from yahoo lifestyle UK (http://uk.lifestyle.yahoo.com/love-sex/10-ways-you-know-hes-the-one-blog-4-handbag.html)

"Part time fling or long term lover? It's the eternal question. He's cute, funny and your friends love him, but is that enough? How do you know he's ‘the one'? Here are 10 factors to consider and if you can meet at least nine of them then hold tight because he might just be the one you've been looking for.
1) He makes you laugh until you cry
A sense of the humour is one of the most appealing qualities in a man and sharing the same jokes will keep you close, whatever comes your way.  It doesn't matter if no one else finds you funny, as long as you can make each other laugh out loud.
2) You want the same things out of life
If you want to settle down and have a family and he wants to travel the world with no commitments then you are not on the same page. Although all couples have to make compromises you should essentially want the same things out of life and be able to work towards them together. 
3) He likes you best with no makeup on
Yes, you may think he is lying but the chances are that he really does prefer you au natural. He loves you for you, not for the clothes you wear or the make up you doll yourself up in. If he tells you you're pretty when you are cuddled up in your pyjamas then chances are that he means it. 
4) You love him because of his flaws
It is wrong to think that to be ‘the one' your man has to be perfect. Nobody is perfect. He is ‘the one' when you know him well enough to see all his flaws, accept them for part of who he is, and love him just as much anyway.
5) He supports you in everything you do
Whether you are going for a job promotion or planning a night out with your friends - he should be your biggest cheerleader. He may not agree 100% with all your decisions but he will never stop you doing anything, will be there to offer advice and pick you up when things go wrong. 
6) You trust him implicitly
If you have been hurt in the past it can be difficult to trust again, but it is an important part of any relationship. Your partner should earn your trust by proving that he always keeps his word and treats you with respect. No, you can never be 100% sure he won't stray but 99.5% will do. 
7) Even your dad/best friend/dog likes him
OK, it shouldn't matter what other people think of him, but it is still nice to know that they approve. Your dad and best friend are only looking out for your best interests and it is difficult to convince them that somebody is good enough for you. If your boyfriend manages to get them on his side then you are probably on to a winner.
8) You wake up and feel lucky each morning
As you roll over in the morning and see him lying next to you, you are struck with a great sense of contentment. Here, out of everywhere in the world, is where you most want to be. You feel lucky to have him in your life and can't imagine sharing it with anyone else.
9) You stop noticing the cute guy at the coffee shop
Of course you are still going to find other men attractive but it is amazing how much less you notice them when you have found ‘the one'. Think about it, have you met anyone recently who really got your juices flowing? No? Then chances are he's right in front of you.  
10) You just know
Sometimes there is no defining factor or moment that confirms he is ‘the one' - you just know. When your life is brighter with him in it (even with his annoying habits and football obsession), when you feel happy each morning and can't imagine your life without him, when you smile thinking about him - you just know"